Why women have extramarital affairs?
Chat about a loaded issue that no one wants to chat about, this is it. Amusing thing, extramarital affairs have been going on from millennium. Extramarital relationships can be fraught with problems, cause misery, and other harms. Also you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety issue, finances, age dissimilarity, spiritual background, remorse, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this post I will define an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, lonely wife looks for dating.
Why do married people have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are women seeking an affair. I suppose mostly though it is just the human state, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
Physically we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and exciting, and sex makes us escape the world for a brief period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Someone are able to turn the longing on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another being, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos people has erected against married dating. For many individuals the yearnings will overcome their worries and make them risk the fury of not only their family, but the public too. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is awfully pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not wound your relatives or anyone else? You will need to lessen the hazard you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the biggest grouping, enormous truly. There are many couples whose marriage is over, apart from they are comfortable in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to look after. Your funds are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live jointly besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An marital affair at times solves the trouble while keeping the marriage whole.
Avoidance, sadly this is a common reason I fear. One or the other, generally the gentleman is sexually neglecting his woman for a tones of reasons. As a man I really am thankful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them available to us males of romance, making them “lonely wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, could be caring is not here, could be it is the closeness, could be neglect. Could be we have simply developed apart, our common interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is diverce of what you want. Could be I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they search for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for financial gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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